Wednesday, December 19, 2007

I'm pretty much done...

I mentioned in a past post that I was a DT member at the Scrapbook Chalet. When the Chalet transfered to my friend, Kat, I was just automatically dumped as a DT member.
No one talked to me about it...no one asked if I minded, wanted to stay, or told me I wasn't good enough to be on the DT there. It was just assumed that I wouldn't mind being Admin. No one thought about whether or not my feelings would be hurt, but it wasn't important.
Ok...so I'll deal with that. My feelings were hurt, but obviously, Kat's friends Carrie and Kim were more important. I can actually deal with that too....I've learned over the years NOT to put too much importance into internet friendships. They're like the rest of the stuff in our world today...too disposable.
Moving on. I get a call yesterday from Kat, telling me that Carrie and Kim don't want to put me into the product rotation because I hurt Carrie's feelings by "picking on her" when I told her that storms on the US coasts are hurricanes, and when you cross the International dateline they become typhoons. Seems I made her feel stupid by pointing that out. Wasn't my intention, but seems that both Carrie and Kim feel I was dissing Carrie....
Ok...all I can say to that is if the shoe fits, put both of them on! (Who burdens a child with a name like "Calliope" anyway? I'm sure that kid is going to grow up being horibly teased and made fun of..I feel sorry for her, because from what I understand, she's a sweet, loving child...and if she is, her feelings are going to be hurt that much more by the ignorance of her parents in naming her something so easily distorted into nasty names!)

I'm done at the Shanty. It's not worth my time to deal with women who are so petty that they won't even talk about what I've done or give me a chance to apologise for offenses that I wasn't even aware of. I sent PMs to both Carrie and Kim saying that I understood we had a problem and asking if they wanted to talk about it... Neither of them has the intestinal fortitude (the nice way of saying they don't have guts enough) to answer me and tell me first hand what the problem is. They'd rather backstab and whine to Kat behind my back.

So be it. There comes a time, in Minda's (from TS) words, to let go of expectations and accept things the way they are. Wise woman, Minda. I'm having a blast at Tally Scrappers anyway...and Christine has a KILLER inventory in her store...I'm even applying for the DT there...not that I stand a chance of making it, but it's fun to imagine...

Many of my friends are already there. They love it there too, and are loved there. It's a great online community...much like real life communities, with different folks and different personalities and "sub-communities" peacefully co-existing within the bounds of social acceptance. It doesn't matter there that I don't go to church, nor does it matter that I can be a crusty old woman who says what she thinks. I don't know how to explain it. It's just more like "home"....it's more real, warmer, and welcoming than you can imagine....give it a try! :) You'll find it at www.tallyscrappers.com

3 comments:

Robin (Tqmnurse) said...

Girlfriend!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so there for you and with you.....One thing I love the most about you is your ability to tell it like it is...I'm a bit like that...never learned to sugar coat things....LOL.. makes me an outcast here in the south!
As Wise Minda said...don't sweat the small stuff....I recently heard the same type of speech from Minda about a online/true to life local thought she was a friend person....tough lesson to learn....and even harder when we still hang out at many of the same places....but....I've jumped over that hurdle and moved on...hurt as it did....and still does...
Just know that I will always consider you a keeper! Wanna be highlighted on my blog??? You know where to reach me...
Robin (tqmnurse)

Becky said...

Hugs Charlee. I love you darlin

ScrappyLadyDelight said...

Carlee, I sent where you had posted on my blog so I can over to the Shanty to get your blog address. All I can say is what you said was true I about being happy, but I not happy at KT. I have been looking for a place to buy monthly kits. I am going to got and check out TS. I am so sorry this has all happen for you because I happen to think you are a most wonderful person and I thank you for visiting me at my blog. Judy on the lake.